What is dominant behavior in a mature man and what can it mean to those around him?
You’re likely to find many attitudes about what it means to “be dominant male” and how dominant a man should strive to be.
A dominant behavior by itself doesn’t make someone a leader, or someone to emulate or admire.
When can they be more beneficial than harmful?
The following examples will show you that being dominant in the right sense can improve relationships.
1. He is self-controlled and shows self-discipline.
The dominant man does not become a slave to his desires or his appetite. Because he is aware that his success and happiness depend on his ability to control his body and its natural inclinations, he practices self-discipline.
This is because the dominant man will be more physically fit and stronger than someone who only thinks he is dominant, but lacks self-control and discipline.
The dominant man should always be mindful when he indulges in anything.
2. He is a master of body language and uses it to his advantage.
He is able to recognize and appreciate body language that makes others feel at ease and makes them feel valued. These are the signs that someone is comfortable in a dominant position:
A strong, confident posture is important (no hiding or slouching the neck).
A confident, calm smile
Handshakes that are firm, but still respectful
Smooth, confident stride (not swaggering, lumbering, or stomp).
A wistful, alert, but not anxious glance around the room
3. He is aware that he is a work in process and does the work.
The dominant man does not pretend to know everything. He doesn’t lead others because he knows everything, but because he is always learning and improving. Following him is the best way for you to see how he does it.
He is aware that he is not perfect and doesn’t expect anyone else to be. He does however have high standards and strives to exceed them.
He doesn’t obsess about how he compares with other men. He doesn’t have to.
He understands that most people do their best to learn and grow. He respects those who are honest enough to admit they are wrong and learn from them.
4. He doesn’t a waste time or energy complaining.
He gets up when he falls or is knocked to the ground. He doesn’t waste his time complaining about or blaming others for the difficulties he faces. Instead, he gets on with it.
He is able to tell when to move forward towards the same goal and when it’s time to pivot. He learns from his mistakes and continues to work hard even when they are made. He expects his partner to do the same.
He also respects people who are able to do so with a sense humor.
5. He knows exactly what he wants.
He has goals and takes deliberate action every day to achieve them. He identifies his goals and creates a plan. Then he breaks it down into the tasks he can do.
He will also help identify others who can teach him and can assist him.
However, the dominant man does not use people without consideration for their well-being. He will always find a way for people to repay him and pay it forward whenever possible. He understands the importance of gratitude and displays it through his words and actions.
6. He is patient, but persistent.
He refuses to give up or allow setbacks to weaken his determination. He sees the purpose in every obstacle and detour. He’ll smile and wink at the universe to find new ways to get there.
He doesn’t want instant gratification and he doesn’t need it. He starts the ball rolling and guides it in the right direction.
He doesn’t take setbacks personally and doesn’t talk as though the world is against his. He simply reassesses his situation and finds a way to win.
7. He is a leader by example
His presence is a focal point of attention when he enters a room. He exudes confidence, humor, and wisdom that he has gained by being attentive and humble enough to learn from others.
He can see the fake bravado from a mile away and calls it what its really is: a pathetic trumpery.
Because they see him as what they wish to see, people follow him. He is a man who accepts everything with equanimity and is always willing to help when needed. While many would like to be as kind and compassionate as him, few people are willing to go the extra mile.
8. He takes risks.
He would rather be wrong than sit back and let others take chances.
He conquers his fears by confronting and ultimately defeating them. He would rather face his fear than let it hold him back from achieving his goals.
He’d rather take a chance to express his feelings to the person he loves than “play it cool” and pretend nonchalance to protect his ego. He will risk humiliation to pursue what or who he desires in his life.
9. He knows when and how to say no.
He will not be compelled or coerced into doing anything he does not intend to do. He will give every request the attention it deserves and offer a clear, decisive response.
He is rarely willing to change his mind, if at all. He thinks about his answers, and even though others may be trying to get him to change, he has already made progress.
He tracks his time and honors his obligations to others. He will not sacrifice them or give up on anyone to please another.
10. He speaks with clarity, confidence, and calm.
He says what he wants to say when he feels the need. He speaks clearly and quickly, without overexerting his voice. Each sentence is thoughtful, measured, and clear.
He is also able to use facial expressions and a silent pause to his advantage. He may be able to get people talking without intimidating or pressuring them.
People naturally open up to him and later wonder why it was so simple (or so hard to stop).
He not only attracts people to his side but also makes them want him to entertain or impress them. He is gracious but also knows when it’s best to go.
11. He has zero tolerance for bullies.
He is not a bully and does not tolerate bullies who are quasi-dominant in their bullying behavior.
He can see right through them as they are: insecure, weak, loud-mouthed manbabies (i.e. losers).
Only weaklings mistakenly think such bullies are dominant men.
To be truly dominant, a man does not have to compare himself to the bully in order to attract people away. He can simply set a better example by walking into a room and being himself.
Positive traits of a dominant man
Are you able to recognize these signs?
We hope that you have noticed these characteristics in yourself if you are reading this article to find out what it takes to be a dominant man. You now know which traits to improve.
We hope you found this post helpful if you are attracted to men who have authority (not self-centered wannabes).
Which qualities are you most proud of? Which qualities will you cultivate this week?